Better Me Than You
December 31st, 2016

“The psychogenesis of the spirits of the dead seems to me to be more or less as follows.  When a person dies, the feelings and emotions that bound his relatives to him lose their application to reality and sink into the unconscious, where they activate a collective content that has a deleterious effect on consciousness.”   -Carl Jung, The Red Book Liber Novus

 

What might it be like for someone to die suddenly, through illness or accident, and not have an opportunity to say goodbye to parents, siblings, a spouse and children, and beloved friends?  Nor to express their love and appreciation, and begin to come to peace with death?  While the ability to communicate through present consciousness is ended through a tragic death, the emotional connections that join loved ones remain, are flooded with grief and continue to inform.  The pain and loss may take years to be absorbed and integrated by the surviving members of the family  Read more...

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Being a Representative in a Constellation
November 30th, 2016

One of the essential, inexplicable experiences in a Family Constellations group is that of being a representative for someone's family member.  By being willing to be in service to someone else’s healing, you make yourself available in order for the presence of a key member of the family system to take their place in the whole.  You also report on the impressions, sensations and emotions you experience in full consciousness while you stand for the family member. Because the process of a constellation is holographic, you may experience a kind of dual awareness as a representative that affects you, and which can provide insight into a challenging situation in your own family.   In the intake phase of a constellation the facilitator asks basic factual questions about the issue holder’s family history, in order to determine a starting point.  The goal is to find a direction in which to look for the origin of the pattern or entanglement from  Read more...

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Taking Responsibility for Our Part in Standing Rock
November 1st, 2016

Consider for a moment the place that you live.  If you own a house or townhome on some land, you either have a mortgage on which you pay regularly, or have fulfilled the payment agreements you originally made with a bank to pay your loan in full.  You pay property taxes in exchange for receiving certain services. If you rent the apartment, condo or house where you currently reside, you had to make specific promises and agreements to acquire the rights to inhabit the space with caveats that you or the owner could decide to end the agreements under given conditions protected by legal foundations.

 

How would you feel if you had used the threat of force, or actual violence, to take the place of the previous occupants of the space in which you now live?  What if they resisted, fought back, and you, with superior weapons, had injured some and killed others, then claimed ownership of that living space without atoning for your crime? Let's say for the  Read more...

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Taking In Everything We Inherit From Our Parents
August 31st, 2016

"I became aware of the Fateful links between me and my ancestors. I feel very strongly that I am under the influence of things or questions which were left incomplete and unanswered by my parents and grand-parents and more distant ancestors. It often seems as if there was an impersonal karma within a family, which is passed on from parents to children. It has always seemed to me that I had to answer questions which Fate had posed to my fore-fathers, and which had not yet been answered, or as if I had to complete, or perhaps continue, things which previous ages had left unfinished."  -Carl Jung, from Memories, Dreams, Reflections "... So too we are dwarfs astride the shoulders of giants. We master their wisdom and move beyond it. Due to their wisdom we grow wise and are able to say all that we say, but not because we are greater than they."  -Isaiah di Triani (c. 1180 - c. 1250) In your inner image of your place in your family lineage, do  Read more...

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Adoption and Family Constellations
July 27th, 2016

A constellation on adoption can provide insight, understanding and relief for the unresolved energies that may cling to the souls of the birth parents, adopting parents and adoptee.  Although the circumstances which gave rise to the adoption happened long ago (and possibly a number of generations back in the ancestral lineage), they have lingering effects.  There are many questions that remain to be lived through for all family members who are involved.  An adoptee may want to know what kind of people their parents were, and what qualities and skills they may have inherited from them.  They may also wonder about the reasons for the adoption, and retain challenges of feeling good enough in some situations.  These questions do not easily reveal their gifts through the logic of language or the assessments of morality, but may be approached slowly and carefully, in the right timing, with the guidance and support of a constellation facilitator. There are  Read more...

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