Healing Through Reconnecting What's Been Separated
April 17th, 2015

What Kelly and I see many times in the work of Family Constellations are people who have, consciously or unconsciously, rejected some quality, tradition, or event from their family's or their ancestors' lives. It is a natural and human tendency to choose what we find pleasant, acceptable, healthy and agreeable, and to push away what we (or society, or any group with which we identify) consider wrong or bad. When we do this at a young age it is usually a necessary part of our individuation, and even sometimes required for our physical or emotional survival. 

The hard work of Family Constellations often lies in seeing, accepting, and coming to peace with everything in our families. By rejecting any part of the lives of our parents or ancestors, we may also cut ourselves off from the life force with which our very existence came to us. This does not mean we condone crimes, injustice or abuse if they occurred. Instead, it gives us an opportunity to see more of the  Read more...

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The Knowing Field
February 12th, 2015

The Knowing Field

Because we are the living descendants of all of our ancestors, we are forever and inextricably linked to our family lineage on many obvious as well as subtle levels. In addition, we share with all of humanity the experience of having come from a family. For these reasons, a deep intimacy can be created in a group that shares an intention to heal personal and family challenges. A powerful field effect is created in which those gathered can eventually, by opening to trust, experience a harmonic resonance without ever having met previously. One person's Constellation may help to heal a similar issue in another's life, and insights can come to all present as they are willing to be in sacred service to each other.

In the process of Family Constellations, a person wishing to heal a life issue will be guided to choose representatives from the group of participants who have come together for the seminar. (In individual Constellations, the client uses  Read more...

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To Give From Fullness
January 4th, 2015

In late December Kelly and I were leaving the Outward Bound base camp in Everglades City FL after our holiday paddling trip, and getting ready to spend the night with my family in North Palm Beach who had been taking care of Harvey while we were in the Glades. I saw a fisherman on a dock cleaning fish and some folks walking toward him, and I thought we might buy some of his fish to take back to share at dinner that night. Kelly asked him where we might buy some fish and he said, "you can get some right here." 
He had gone fishing with his wife and caught a mess of mullet and asked how many we wanted. Then he asked if we needed ice. Then he said, "If it's alright with you follow me back to my house and I'll load you up there. And I'm not going to charge you for these. It's my Christmas gift to you." He gave us 15 whole fish and enough ice to fill our cooler! We were pretty blown away by Lt. Valdez's generosity- he is a fire  Read more...

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Healing with a Bow to the Ancestors
December 19th, 2014

The Bow to Your Ancestors

Regardless of the stories you carry about your family- what happened in the family history, how you feel you were recognized, treated and supported in your likes and dislikes as well as your talents and longings, and how you feel currently about the state of the relationships you have with all your family members- there is a simple practice that can help shift the way you carry your family in your heart, and bring you peace and resolution. It is the recognition that of all your gifts, the greatest you were ever given was your life. You can acknowledge this gift with a bow.

You are the literal product of the lives of your parents and all your ancestors. Through their struggles and successes, through their traumas and delights, through all their experiences, life flowed through them and came to you. They lived so that you could have life. To honor this fact is to put yourself in right relationship with your ancestors, and to reconnect with the love  Read more...

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Illness, Balance in Family Systems, and Ebola
October 16th, 2014

Let no one... persuade you to cure the head, until he has first given you his soul to be cured by the charm. For this is the great error of our day in the treatment of the human body, that physicians separate the soul from the body.” -The Dialogues of Plato: Charmides

     One of the higher perspectives on illness or dis-ease holds that any disturbance in physical, emotional or spiritual health brings a gift of awareness hidden within it. For example, a fall that leads to a sprained wrist may lead to a sudden change in a person's lifestyle and a slowing down of activities. Sometimes such an unexpected yet necessary reassessment of priorities reminds us of the value of space and reflection in our lives, and of the benefit from filling our soul with what it needs, rather than filling our calendar with appointments.
     Medical intuitive Carolyn Myss has said, “Illness can develop as a consequence of behavioral patterns  Read more...

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